I’m thrilled to share this particular subject with you today, as I think a lot of women will surely relate to her story. So without further ado…
“Lately, I have no live/work balance. Work is fulfilling but incredibly stressful and time consuming. I agreed to do this project because I was looking to step out of my comfort zone and do something meaningful but also personal.
I feel expected by society to work constantly lest I be seen as a gold digger or trophy wife, when often I feel I must cook or contribute to the household. On top of all of this I feel I must keep up physical appearances when leaving the house, no matter how exhausted I am I have to try and act and look vivacious and energized. Heaven forbid I feel too tired to engage in sexual behavior; I have to worry that if I don’t keep my partner happy and he strays it is my fault for failing to fulfill his needs. Society still places the onus on the woman to maintain a pleasant and fulfilling marriage/relationship.
I have a demanding personality that would be considered strong leadership traits for a man, but I am seen as bossy since I am a woman. In the past I was expected to sit quietly, even if a boss was making sexually inappropriate or explicit comments. Speaking up for yourself or defending others makes you obnoxious or a troublemaker.
I’m tired, so absolutely weary that it has taken me five times longer than it should to thoroughly put into words my response. I’m weary at the idea I have to go to sleep and wake up to rinse and repeat. My job is fulfilling, my husband is amazing, my life is stable and loving, yet my soul is drained. Every day I have to watch that I do not ruffle someones feathers for fear I could lose my job, lose friends, lose my life even. I’m scared to venture into the world alone because so many people would hurt someone else for the most arbitrary reason.”
“Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.” –Barbara de Angelis