Just got home from a very much needed break, a vacation in Aruba! I used this time to go within, to examine what’s working in my life and what isn’t and to simply just take in the beauty surrounding me, all while enjoying the company of Joe’s awesome family. I also used this time fully open to any life lessons that might arise. Here is a bit of what I learned:
Be Fully Present
“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.”
— Henry David Thoreau
I decided to actually use this time as a real vacation so I set the away message on emails (although I found out upon my return that it wasn’t working. Great.) and to soak in each moment by being fully present in what I was doing at any given time. I let the stressors of real life fade away and just concentrated on enjoying myself. Sounds easier than it really was. But, by doing this, I ended up having the time of my life which left me recharged to take on the World upon my return home.
Have a Positive Body Image
“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.”
― Amy Bloom
One of the things I enjoyed doing while lounging on the beach was people watching. The people on this beach were from all over the United States as well as other countries. Most of the women were wearing bikinis, regardless of their body shape or size. BRAVO women of the World! Bravo! This inspired me greatly. I realized that I live in a very hard city when it comes to body image. Las Vegas has incredibly unrealistic standards when it comes to beauty. I rarely see my body type reflected back at me in situations where i see women in swimwear in this city. Yet, in Aruba, I saw it everywhere and then some! That was refreshing for sure, but to see the confidence these women exuded was absolutely awe-inspiring! Life is too short to worry about a few extra pounds. Get out there and love your body the way it is now and live it up ladies! Don’t sit on the sidelines waiting for perfection because perfection will never come.
My one regret was that I chose to sit and watch these amazing girls learn how to dance Salsa instead of joining them. Doh!
Change it or Accept It
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
— Reinhold Niebuhr
While wondering if I could actually practice what I just preached I realized I had 2 choices: to accept my body as it is or to change it. I actually did a bit of both while in Aruba. I walked with my head held high and my shoulders back, with an air of confidence. I actually think focusing on better posture and practicing it began to make me feel confident on it’s own. Body language is a powerful tool. But, I also decided to work out every single day I was on vacation. I hit the gym every morning, but also filled my days with activities that got me moving, and ended the day with a long walk back to the hotel after dinner. Just knowing I was doing something good for myself also filled me with confidence.
Do What Scares You Most
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”
― Joseph Campbell
I will admit, I am a big scaredy cat when it comes to a lot of things. Ok, I’m actually afraid of almost everything! Ha! But, fear prevents me from fully living and enjoying my life. I wanted to break out of that confining comfort zone I have built for myself while vacationing. So, I went kayaking in the ocean and snorkeling, something I had told myself for many years I would never do after having a rather scary experience in my youth in the ocean in Malibu. By moving past my fears, a whole new World opened up to me! I couldn’t believe it! I was filled with so much joy while doing these things! It was simply amazing.
What have you done lately that frightens you and gets you outside of your comfort zone?
“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”
— Mahatma Gandhi
While on vacation, I devoured an interesting book called, ‘La Seduction, How the French Play the Game of Life’. It dawned on me that that’s exactly what has been missing from my life lately…seduction! Apparently the French find life more enjoyable when seduction is involved. And guess what? So do I! I long to be seduced with interesting conversations, with beauty, with culture, with culinary experiences and even with a flirtatious glance of a passing stranger. I also realized this is quite difficult to find in the states since our country is more focused on end results and instant gratification. And, quite frankly, I am bored to tears with it all lately. But surely I can find ways to seduce myself, can’t I? Well, I happen to think I can! So, I’ve decided to take more indulgent bubble baths, to read more literature that lights me up from within, to take more leisurely walks and bike rides, to tease my taste buds with decadent culinary delights every once in awhile, to selfishly take better care of my body, mind and soul, and to be more confident. Because confidence is the key to seduction, isn’t it? And, the ultimate act of self seduction? My own boudoir shoot! I decided I am going to hand my camera over to my makeup artist, Kat, in the next few months. It’s about time, isn’t it? Life is too short not to celebrate ourselves, after all. We are all worth it, ladies.
What are some ways you can introduce more seduction into your own life? Or ways that you already are?