I want to share with you one of my best tricks for a little confidence boost for when you need a reminder of all the amazing things that make you uniquely you. This trick comes in handy when you’re feeling especially lonely or down, or when you need encouragement before doing something a little nerve inducing (before a date, a job interview, or even a boudoir shoot). This trick has gotten me through some pretty low points of isolation during this darned pandemic actually.
All you have to do is create a document file (in Word, Google Docs, Evernote or even a simple note on your mobile phone) and begin adding compliments that you receive. I actually started this as a career kudos list but it evolved into personal compliments too. So, go ahead and put it ALL in there…when you remember to anyway. Then any time you need extra self compassion, go take a look at your list! It’s an immediate self esteem booster! Try it! You’ll see!
Here’s an example of some of mine.
(I figure posting these will also allow anyone contemplating a boudoir shoot a little glimpse into my personality too, to see if you want to work with me.)
Thank you to everyone who uttered these words below. I greatly appreciate you holding a polished mirror up for me to see.
“I admire your passion, your drive, your strength of conviction and your willingness to put yourself out into the world. You are an intelligent woman – brimming with experiences, yet open to new encounters; overflowing with passionate viewpoints, yet open to the beliefs of others; and most beautifully – filled with a desire to elevate those around you, yet darken no one’s radiance in your pursuit of enlightenment.”
“You are a lightning bolt wrapped in laughter and silk.”
“There’s an innocence about you. Not necessarily naivety but an inherent goodness about you, which is surprising given all of your past experiences in life.”
“Love your lust for life, only way to live”
“You’re one of the most fun and likable people I know. You’re also one of the few people whose artistry makes others feel better about themselves in a world that seems determined to wear us down.”
“The adventures I have had simply from knowing you have made the last 8 years incredibly fun and NEVER EVER BORING! You have taken my life down a path I dreamed of but would never have achieved without you.”
“A pretty redhead with ocean-green eyes and a laugh that lightens the hearts of everyone in earshot.”
“Thank you for always being so thoughtful and for thinking of others. You are an incredibly kind and wonderful woman. You’re so beautiful inside and out. Not just saying it…it genuinely radiates from you.”
“Watching Frazier work with her subjects, it’s easy to believe she sees in them an inner ember, and that it’s her job to coax it to a bright, outer glow. […] Holladay (her client) visibly relaxes under Frazier’s soothing spell.”
“Thanks for all the positive energy you put out, as well as the encouragement for us to be better people.”
“I wish I could have seen you dance! I love your story and how you connected each part like a beautiful tapestry. Your positive framing of all of it shows your resiliency and strength. I’m in awe of how you transformed your life into exactly how you want to experience it. I truly look up to you!”
“You are a beautiful and loving soul, full of love and grace, and your creative self sees beyond the superficial. Trust your intuition.”
“You have a unique gift, so many gifts, that I haven’t seen anywhere else before.”
“I just wanted to say, how a woman as gorgeous, sexy and sensual as you does not have a boyfriend is beyond me. You are an amazingly gifted, caring and warm person. It’s just too bad you have to be spending this time alone instead of with someone.”
”Part of Stacie’s magic is her inherent ability to see the woman in front of her camera and pull out those things she may not see herself. Her beauty, her sexuality, her fierceness. She certainly did this for me. Being photographed by her reminded me that I am all of these things, and more.”
“You ARE one of the most enlightened human beings I know. It’s totally true Stacie. You have a heart of gold, and you give people the benefit of the doubt.”
“I value you as a person and congratulate you on being one of my all time favorite thinkers. You.. are a fucking warrior of truth and thoughtfulness.. thanks for being you, Stacie.”
“Smart, personable, gorgeous, sweet, funny, feisty, respected, and talented. (and those are your bad points lol) I just appreciate talent like that. It’s not easy, I know!”
What are some of your favorite compliments you’ve received about yourself?